Beware the Energy Vampires.
The Thrill suckers.
You know who I am talking about in your life.
The 'Mood Hoovers'.
We all have them. The folk in your life that try to keep you 'in your place' (or the place that they think you should occupy)
You ever wonder why they do that?
Well, often, if they are close to you, they do it out of love. Or what they think of as 'love' at least. They don't want you to stretch too far and hurt yourself. To try and to fail and thus be disappointed. Sure, its often misplaced but that's just their way or caring. They are just trying to protect you.
But then - there are the 'others'. The ones that are not related to you at all or in relationship that would cause them to care for your welfare.
These are the phuqers that you really have to be merciless in weeding out of your life.
The lost souls who want to drag you down below their level. Those who are threatened by your movement towards your dreams because it highlights their lack of advancement towards theirs.
You should not try to 'hide your light' around these types.
Just because they have no 'impossible dream' does not mean you should stop striving for yours. Pretending you are lame when you walk past someone on crutches is not kindness. Its futility.
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us most.
We ask ourselves, "Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and famous?" Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that people won't feel insecure around you.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.It's not just in some of us; it's in all of us. And when we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." - Nelson Mandella
So? What to do if you find yourself haunted by an energy vampire?
Well I will tell you what I do - and what I have done very recently.
I took the big 'trowl of truth' and I did me some weeding. I 'Outed' the bastards.
Those who did not understand what my values were? OUT!
Those that delighted in reminding me of the times I fell over and neglected to notice that I got up real fast? OUT!
Those who told me I could never do/have/be what I know I am evolving towards constantly? OUT!
I did not aim to be nasty about it but I was honest with them. Maybe TOO honest in some cases.
They were left in no doubt that the road had ended as far as my association was concerned.All it did was create space for more folk on my wavelength to tune into me.
What if you cant 'out' them with the good old trowl of truth? What if its your boss? Or your in-laws? What if its your close family?
Tricky eh?
I believe that when you find yourself in a situation not to your liking, there are only TWO really practical things you can do.
You can either change the circumstances you are in OR you can change the way you choose to respond to those circumstances.
That's it. Pretty simple eh?
I was lucky that I could just change the circumstances and 'vanish' my energy vampires.
If that was not an option then I would just 'tune them out' until I was just not showing up on their screens any more. Tune them out, like changing radio stations.
Send them love of course as you do this.
But send it them from a distance.
The Thrill suckers.
You know who I am talking about in your life.
The 'Mood Hoovers'.
We all have them. The folk in your life that try to keep you 'in your place' (or the place that they think you should occupy)
You ever wonder why they do that?
Well, often, if they are close to you, they do it out of love. Or what they think of as 'love' at least. They don't want you to stretch too far and hurt yourself. To try and to fail and thus be disappointed. Sure, its often misplaced but that's just their way or caring. They are just trying to protect you.
But then - there are the 'others'. The ones that are not related to you at all or in relationship that would cause them to care for your welfare.
These are the phuqers that you really have to be merciless in weeding out of your life.
The lost souls who want to drag you down below their level. Those who are threatened by your movement towards your dreams because it highlights their lack of advancement towards theirs.
You should not try to 'hide your light' around these types.
Just because they have no 'impossible dream' does not mean you should stop striving for yours. Pretending you are lame when you walk past someone on crutches is not kindness. Its futility.
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us most.
We ask ourselves, "Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and famous?" Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that people won't feel insecure around you.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.It's not just in some of us; it's in all of us. And when we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." - Nelson Mandella
So? What to do if you find yourself haunted by an energy vampire?
Well I will tell you what I do - and what I have done very recently.
I took the big 'trowl of truth' and I did me some weeding. I 'Outed' the bastards.
Those who did not understand what my values were? OUT!
Those that delighted in reminding me of the times I fell over and neglected to notice that I got up real fast? OUT!
Those who told me I could never do/have/be what I know I am evolving towards constantly? OUT!
I did not aim to be nasty about it but I was honest with them. Maybe TOO honest in some cases.
They were left in no doubt that the road had ended as far as my association was concerned.All it did was create space for more folk on my wavelength to tune into me.
What if you cant 'out' them with the good old trowl of truth? What if its your boss? Or your in-laws? What if its your close family?
Tricky eh?
I believe that when you find yourself in a situation not to your liking, there are only TWO really practical things you can do.
You can either change the circumstances you are in OR you can change the way you choose to respond to those circumstances.
That's it. Pretty simple eh?
I was lucky that I could just change the circumstances and 'vanish' my energy vampires.
If that was not an option then I would just 'tune them out' until I was just not showing up on their screens any more. Tune them out, like changing radio stations.
Send them love of course as you do this.
But send it them from a distance.
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