Unleash the Beast

Somebody emailed me today and said something which really helped me.

It was words along the lines of “Really like your blog but you DON'T HAVE A HOPE IN HELL'S CHANCE of getting that Bentley."

They went on to say "The other goals are a maybe - if you have the time - but no way the Bentley."

Then the funniest thing is at the end they put “but I really hope you do" (!!!)

Amazing!

It really made me smile because I LOVE that kind of feedback.

Its serves to make me stronger and even more determined to get my goal.

I wrote back to them and thanked them, telling them their feedback has brought my goals even closer than before and I am looking forward to driving past them in the rain while they are at the bus stop!

A lot of folk are brought 'down' by others people’s opinions of their hopes and dreams.

I LOVE it when people tell me I am crazy and 'it will never work' etc. etc.

Heard it all my life. Heard it but never 'listened' if you know what I mean :-)

Remember those old black and white 'Frankenstein' films?

Or my favourite movie monster of all time, Godzilla?

Remember what happened if something like lightening or some jazzy 'death ray' hits Godzilla?

Was it 'fried lizard' on the menu?

Nah.....it only made the big green bastard even STRONGER.

(You would have thought they would learn after the first few films eh?)

Looking at things like that is a great model to embrace.

Positive encouragement of your goals just makes you stronger.

Negative views and comments of your goals just makes you stronger.

Talk about a win/win situation.

My 'friend' who emailed me was perplexed at my energy when told I would never make it - especially after I had THANKED THEM for helping me with their comments.

I think they thought I had finally 'lost it'. (Which shows how little they know me - like I ever 'had it' in the first place to lose)

They told me they were worried about me and that I am pushing myself too hard. Bless them.

I smiled at that because although they were being kind to me, it showed me they never understood. That the very concerns they were expressing was exactly the same reason that this was 'impossible' to them.

And maybe other things in their life were out of their reach too - regardless of how much they wanted them.

I did not have time to explain - not that they would have wanted to hear anyway.

It’s a pretty long winded explanation anyway but I have heard a shorter one which is not so succinct but sums it up in a very different way.

I believe it was Clint Eastwood who uttered it in the film 'Magnum Force'.

'Opinions are like Ass Holes - everybody's got one'

That about sums it up for me :-)

Originally posted on Tuesday, November 28, 2006 at 03:44PM

Snap!!

Beware the TRAP.

One man’s floor is another man’s ceiling.
One man’s meat is another man’s poison.

I had a sly posting regarding my last blog from a very kind person.....I think it was a woman called Annie Nonomouse....or something like that.

It reminded me of a point I meant to make about the duality of things.

Just because YOU are striving towards your goals and doing 'positive high energy' all the time - don't make the mistake that it makes you 'good' and all the world 'bad'.

Just in doing what it is you do, you could unwittingly become an 'energy vampire' to other people.

Strange, but true.

Maybe others around you have had 20,30 or 40 yrs. practise in believing that they have no control over their destiny, or that they should not get their hopes up because 'life just won’t work out' and all of that jazz.

And then YOU come along and start to pour sunshine on their rainy parade!

You can see just how annoying that could be, right? 

Having an up-beat approach around down-beat people can be very draining to them. After all, it takes so much of their daily energy just to make it through the 'cruel world'....the last thing they need is someone coming along and rocking their reality. :-)

Remember, this stuff is NOT for everybody so keep it to yourself otherwise you can exasperate their wretchedness and deepen their condition.

And although on some levels you are doing them a 'left handed' favour by reinforcing their beliefs about the reality of the universe (IE they are having a lovely dull day and someone always buggers it up by trying to be happy )......it is still a little cruel so aim to avoid doing it if ya can.

Remember, one person’s ‘upbeat self-believer’ is another person’s 'Clown.'

As I said before, it's all about perspective and how well your 'delusions' are working out for ya :-)

Originally posted on Tuesday, November 28, 2006 at 03:36PM

Loony Tunes.....

You say 'Psycho' like that's a bad thing!

One way of making your madness work in your favour is to always make a point to 'Hallucinate' what is really there!

What do I mean by that?

You think someone is an energy vampire that just sucks the good feelings out of you whenever they are around you?

Cool! Close your eyes now and make a big colour image in your mind right now of that person. But notice that instead of their normal clothes, they are wearing a 'full on' Halloween vampire outfit, complete with garish plastic fangs! Maybe they are dressed like count or countess Dracula, in the full Gothic number and frilly sleeves and the red velvet lined cloak.

Perhaps you see them in a filthy torn old shroud, drifting smoothly around the place neither casting a shadow nor a reflection. and the SMELL! Poooh! all those years being undead....

You think someone you know is a clown? Someone you either can't or should not take seriously in your life? Then go right ahead and picture them now with the painted white face and the stick on red nose. The huge shoes and the lapel flower that squirts water. A car with the doors that fall off as soon as it turns up.

See what I mean? Picturing these sorts in the way that suits them is very cathartic! The more you do this little exercise, you will find quite rapidly that you no longer need to do this with your eyes closed - it will happen spontaneously whenever they are around!

Its great fun. You turn a stumbling block into a stepping stone. Transmuting someone who is a thorn in your side into a figure of fun in your mind.

You see, the way you address something in your mind dictates the way you respond to it in the outside world. You give something 'gravity' and as a consequence it becomes a heavy issue.
Address something in a light hearted way and you get to play 'ball' with it. Its your choice.

In my internal world, I have slugs, toads, zombies and gargoyles as well as angels, heroes, good witches and at least two Daleks....

I guess the downside of this is..........people who used to drive you up the wall start to make you smile or even make you grin when they are 'doing their thing' around you.

It will really disconcert them.

Well, after all, if we don't treat our 'problems' seriously, how can we expect them to hang around?

See my point :-)

Originally posted on Tuesday, November 28, 2006 at 03:33PM

Mumbo Jimbo....

The Lesson of 'Evil Jim'.

I know someone (I suppose one could loosely call him a friend if you bend the use of semantics a bit).
His name is Jim.

Most people call him 'Evil Jim' because he is a walking 'Black Hole' of darkness, doubt and negativity.

Others call him 'Rigsby' because of his uncanny resemblance to the landlord in the comedy show 'Rising Damp'. Not strictly in how he looks but more to do with his behaviour, mannerisms and demeanor.

Acts like Rigsby and sounds like Jimmy Saville. "Now then, now then. Jangle jangle., jewellery jewellery etc etc.......

He is possibly the meanest person I have ever met.

Not just mean with his money but mean with his emotions, mean with his dreams, mean with his life.

( Now I am not going to do some cracks about him like.....he is so mean, he only ever breaths in. Or...he has his pockets lined with rubber so he could steal soup......oh, looks like I just have....)

Now I mention him because of an incident I had with him about 6 years ago which still cracks me up when I think about it.

I SWEAR this is a true story.

I tell you this because it will give you an immediate insight into his core beliefs and values, straight away.

I once was in a rush to get out the door of the office but I needed to call Jim on some matter later that day. I did not have his mobile number in my phone so just as I was hot footing it out of the door I said "Quick, Jim, give me your number"

And before a heartbeat had passed he responded " NO, no, I need it!" :-)

A man so mean and spiritually impoverished that he would not even give you his NUMBER.

True story.

Originally posted on Tuesday, November 28, 2006 at 03:31PM

Boiingg!!

Looks like my Reality Check bounced!

A little tip for you here.

Remember you can be 'Mad' and it can be ok. Honestly.

You see the question really is not are you mad or sane.

The question or deciding factor is: how well is your madness working for you?

So many people have illusions that do not serve them. They think everyone is against them. That their boss/parents/kids hate them. They hallucinate that if they are not owning a certain product or wearing the 'right' label (in this year’s colours) that somehow they are lessened.

They fear their bum is too big or their hair is falling out. That without two feet of make-up on and perfume, they cannot possibly be seen out at the shops because clearly they are ugly and they stink without it.

You may recognise these sorts. These people are called 'Normal'.

And then there are us others.

We 'hallucinate' how good we are going to feel when we have achieved our goals - and we elect to start feeling good about it NOW. We use that energy to propel ourselves relentlessly toward our objective. When it rains - rather than getting down about it and bitching - we start singing in the rain because we know nothing we do will make it not rain so we might as well enjoy our circumstances while we are here.

We spend a good proportion of our time living in the future - a future of our own creation, just as we have created our present too. Warts and all. We step up. We take the responsibility.

We do 'happy' when to the entire world we have nothing to be doing 'happy' about.

Ok - clearly we are barking mad, right? But why are 'we' happier than 'they'?

I once heard it said that the difference between Madness and Genius is measured in success.

So I ask you again: How well is your madness working for you?

Originally posted on Tuesday, November 28, 2006 at 03:29PM

The Idiot Filter

Install an 'idiot filter' in your life.

Upgrading the 'Idiot Filter' in your life will act the same as Fly Paper to energy vampires and other sad creatures who are attracted to you.

We all have an Idiot Filter fitted at birth but often it gets clogged by the civilisation virus which is all around us.

You know the one. 

It tells you to NOT listen to your intuition.

To NOT judge on first appearances. 

DON'T listen to your 'gut instincts'.

To be fair.

To not judge. To be liberal. To give people a second (third, forth, fifth...) chance.

You know what I mean.

Now, I don't know about you but speaking for myself, I can count the times on one finger the times that listening to my 'in-tuition'  Gut feelings, Inner voice etc. Literally tuition or learning from within) has lead me down the wrong path. (And I understand the reasons for that one too)

In fact, pretty much every time I have listened to 'facts' about someone over my 'feelings' about them on our first meeting I have often lived to regret it......... and paid the price over and over again.

Well, I took my idiot filter apart recently when I examined the quality of relationships in my life. I had a good look at the stuff it was letting through and you know what?

It was clogged up. Big Style.

So I had a new, upgrade fitted and now it is working A-ok.

(Hence my recent cull of life suckers and mood hoovers)

Maybe yours is clogged too.

OR more likely...it is working perfectly fine but the volume is turned down on it.

Because the value of having an Idiot filter is only there IF you listen to the signals you get from it...and most importantly, ACT on them.

Sometimes it will defy logic and make no sense but, like a compass at sea, you must have faith and trust it.

It will not steer you wrong.

Originally posted on Tuesday, November 28, 2006 at 03:28PM

Stick with it......

The Fly Paper of Mediocrity.

So, now I have weeded out my 'energy vampires' in my life, I guess the questions I need to address now are: how did I manage to accumulate so many of the buggers in the first place? 

And also, how will I make sure this does not build up again?

Well, I think I know the answer to the first question already.

Just like moths attracted to a flame, these buggers gather around people with big dreams and goals. For many reasons too. 

Maybe they once had dreams and goals too that they were striving for - but for some reason or other they failed to materialise. 

Maybe their goals were impotent. 

Not big enough to inspire them to massive action.

Its possible that their enthusiasm and ambition got blunted somewhere along the way so they just gave up.

Or maybe they simply did not WANT it enough.

They bought into the pop-corn philosophy of 'stop dreaming, get a PROPER job,settle down,breed,pay taxes,vote,retire then die'

Stuck to the fly paper of mediocrity. Sounds nasty but they wont be lonely because 97 per cent of everyone else is right up there alongside them too.

But they are drawn to your 'light'. To your drive and enthusiasm. To your energy and vision.

Especially if you are pushing through adverse conditions and negative circumstances in order to reach them because - the dimmer your future, the brighter you shine.

They are like 'spyware' on your computer. They make you run slower and just affect your performance while all the time reporting back to others about what you are doing.

You have to drop them like a bad habit, because that's pretty much what they are. However, you can console yourself with one thought.

That they only tackle the people who have got the ball, right?

So you must be doing something right :-)

Originally posted on Tuesday, November 28, 2006